When you are holding onto an emotion, particularly one that is only partially thought through, it can sit clogging your free flowing attitude. Even though it may seem not to be near the surface of your thinking, it will be leaking into your mood and the rest of your thoughts.
When presenting your ideas do you erm often? Speaking up at meetings are your views punctuated with umms? Are you aware of the amount of umms and errs that pepper your dialogue? Pruning just a few of them out of your talks can significantly enhance your impact and the influence you exert with the actual content of your subject.
Have you ever noticed times when you feel at your physical and mental peak and times when you are not? Have you considered the times in the day or week when you are a more or less creative thinker or able to work at higher or lower intensity? When your concentration in meetings or your communication with colleagues is better or worse?
Until you do, you may be holding expectations and demands that are too high, setting yourself up for disappointment, fatigue and the ensuing attitude drop.
You’ve probably heard the phrase, “Resting Bitch Face”, mockingly ascribed to how someone holds a resting face that displays an unintendedly blunt message.
“RBF” has come up in several conversations recently and reminding me of the effect our facial expression can have on our impact. What is your face saying?
Nothing stays the same. Everything is changing.
When we grasp and grip on a situation or an emotion we can delude ourselves that there is permanence. Ascribing the word ‘stuck’ can hem us in but it is never true, something is always in the process of change.