When you are holding onto an emotion, particularly one that is only partially thought through, it can sit clogging your free flowing attitude. Even though it may seem not to be near the surface of your thinking, it will be leaking into your mood and the rest of your thoughts.
When presenting your ideas do you erm often? Speaking up at meetings are your views punctuated with umms? Are you aware of the amount of umms and errs that pepper your dialogue? Pruning just a few of them out of your talks can significantly enhance your impact and the influence you exert with the actual content of your subject.
Have you ever noticed times when you feel at your physical and mental peak and times when you are not? Have you considered the times in the day or week when you are a more or less creative thinker or able to work at higher or lower intensity? When your concentration in meetings or your communication with colleagues is better or worse?
Until you do, you may be holding expectations and demands that are too high, setting yourself up for disappointment, fatigue and the ensuing attitude drop.
You’ve probably heard the phrase, “Resting Bitch Face”, mockingly ascribed to how someone holds a resting face that displays an unintendedly blunt message.
“RBF” has come up in several conversations recently and reminding me of the effect our facial expression can have on our impact. What is your face saying?
Nothing stays the same. Everything is changing.
When we grasp and grip on a situation or an emotion we can delude ourselves that there is permanence. Ascribing the word ‘stuck’ can hem us in but it is never true, something is always in the process of change.
Occasionally I am asked to coach specifically on a leader’s gravitas, how they speak and present information verbally to shift and increase their impact. This Simple Note will give you a simple change that will increase the likelihood of you saying the right thing in the right way and at the right time.
At the core of our everyday confidence is a belief, of which we may or may not be aware, but it’s there. The belief that you can achieve, you can succeed, that you are in the right place, doing the right thing, being the best you can be.
Delegation is an art but for so many speed and efficiency are lost, opportunities not grasped, as this skill gets blocked. Through thousands of coaching conversations with clients I’ve observed other blockages that are imagined but feel real to the faltering delegator.